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Today I’m excited to have a guest post from author Aleesa Sutton. After her post I’ll share info on her latest book, Diary of a Single Mormon Female.
diary of a single mormon female

Guest Post
by Aleesa Sutton

I was supposed to be having the time of my life in Italy. I’d quit my job, sold all my belongings and begun a backpacking trip across Europe the year I turned 30, looking for a fresh start. Maybe, just maybe, I’d also find the man of my dreams and end my years of being single and lonely.

But there I was at a Mormon singles dance in Milan, learning a strange Italian version of the hokey-pokey (emphasis on hokey) and reeling from fresh heartbreak. The hot, Mormon Italian guy who’d been putting the moves on me had suddenly decided to get back with his old girlfriend.

Being single can be especially difficult in the Mormon, or LDS church, where there is a strong emphasis on the importance of marriage and family. I’d been primed for my “happily ever after” since I was a teenager. I thought I’d be married long ago with a baby or two by now, like pretty much all my friends, college roommates and even kids I used to babysit.

So what do you do when the thing you long for, your most important dream, hasn’t been realized yet? You go back and look at all your efforts to make it happen. You find the humour. You find the pain. And you tell your story, in hopes of understanding it better. And maybe it will help someone else understand their story better, too.

I started writing in my diary about boys when I was about ten. Writing had always helped me make sense of my feelings and the situations that caused them. In putting together this book, I thought it’d be fun to go back and look at how I had written about boys as a teenager (I once described my crush’s eyes as “Brown. Meltable. So bOINGy.”), as a university student (where I described one frustrating date who wanted to talk about his grandpa’s migraine headaches at the formal dance) and as an older young adult (when I made the mistake of baking “tuna tarts” for a guy I liked). Of course, God was also part of my life, and the details of that sometimes-rocky relationship are also included.

This memoir tells my story through a compilation of those diary entries and my modern-day musings. Not only was it a lot of fun to write, it helped me find some peace with my current state. I think readers will relate to the experiences and laugh and cry right along with me. I welcome you to come and enjoy the ride of a single Mormon female’s life.

diary of a single mormon female

Diary of a Single Mormon Female

A funny, moving memoir about coping without Mr. Right.

Available at Amazon

She’s standing at the refreshment table at yet another Mormon (LDS) singles conference when a new guy, tall and good-looking, walks through the door. Hope rises—could he be the one?—but is dashed a minute later, when she sees hordes of women descending upon him. It’s like watching a pride of lionesses bearing down on an oblivious young gazelle.Find the man of her dreams, have a Mormon temple marriage and live happily ever after. (Just one husband, one wife. No polygamy here.) That was always the plan, ever since she was a shy, awkward, home-schooled teenager who just wanted a boy to kiss her. But dating has been unsuccessful—none of her relationships have gone anywhere. She’s 32 and still single, trying to live a meaningful life in a church defined by its commitment to marriage and family. How can Joseph Smith’s truths or the Book of Mormon he translated help when she can’t even get a date for Saturday night?

This wry and moving memoir details that life through authentic journal entries, with candid stories about her encounters with scripture juggling, a virtual albino Chinese teenager, chastity lines, the virgin lips club, Brazilians (not that kind), a pink flamingo date messenger, an elusive guitarist in Malta, an open-minded parrot, a Swiss lumberjack, Icelandic Mormons, a marriage flowchart and dozens of awkward conversations.

Chapters include: “The Hunk of Burnin’ Love”; “Was I Weak-Butted?”; “Who Talks About Grandpa’s Migraine Headaches on a Dream Date??”; “Virgins, in This Day and Age!” and “Do You Think I Have Nerves of Steel?” Actual diary pages and photos accompany the text.

Will she ever find the man of her dreams? And will she succeed in reconciling her beliefs with her reality? Some days it feels like it would take nothing less than a fairy godmother and a magic wand.

Author Bio:
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Aleesa has degrees from the Royal Conservatory of Music and Brigham Young University (Provo). These have opened up countless opportunities such as legal secretary, double-decker tour bus guide and ice cream scooper. Once, she also played the piano at a crazy Mexican couple’s dinner party, where they tied a bib around her neck and spoon-fed her soup.

She starved artfully for a few years in Toronto before becoming a Cambridge-certified English as a second language teacher and going hungry a little less. She also met tons of international students, some of whom even gave her free stuff!

When her 10-month backpacking trip across Europe in 2010 surprisingly did not produce the husband she’d always dreamed of, she came home and decided to write a book about it all.

Aleesa lives in Vancouver, BC, where she teaches English at a private college and dreams of sharing the fridge with someone, someday.

Connect with Aleesa:
Twitter: @MormonFemale
See live video of Aleesa at:
– the author participates in a guest panel on Huffington Post live chat, Mormon Singles Crisis, Sept 2012,

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